Wondering if you can take a child in foster care on vacation? Learn how to navigate permissions, create memorable experiences, and make your trip successful!
Taking a family vacation is a special experience that creates lasting memories for children and parents alike to treasure.
As a foster parent, you may be wondering whether you can take a child in care on vacation, what permissions you need, and how to make the experience positive for everyone involved.
The good news is that foster parents can often take children in care on vacation!
However, there are some important considerations to keep in mind.
Let's face it — planning a vacation with any child takes careful thought.
When you're fostering, you might feel extra pressure to get everything right. You want the trip to be special while ensuring your child feels safe and comfortable throughout the experience.
These are completely normal concerns, and many foster parents have successfully navigated this journey.
Taking a vacation with your child in care can open up a world of wonderful possibilities.
Many children in care haven't had the chance to build those cherished family memories that so many of us take for granted. A trip to the beach, a weekend in the mountains, or even a visit to a nearby city can spark joy and wonder in ways you might not expect.
For many foster parents, vacations are an incredible opportunity for bonding. It’s just like Charisma Bowman, a Maryland Foster Parent, puts it in her letter to her child in care:
"I cherish every day that we spend together and push myself to do all sorts of activities just to experience them with you."
These shared adventures help parents connect with their children in care on a deeper level, creating special moments that both sides will remember for years to come.
So, how can you keep things stable while still making the trip fun and exciting?
It's true that many children in care thrive on stability. Big changes can sometimes feel overwhelming, especially when you consider that over a third of children in care have 3 or more foster care placements.
Keep in mind that you don't have to choose between adventure and stability.
Many foster families find success by keeping some familiar daily habits – such as morning routines or bedtime stories – while mixing in new experiences. Think of it as adding exciting new chapters to your family's story while keeping the comfort of familiar bookends to each day.
Every foster family's situation is unique, and your agency can help guide you through this process.
Paperwork is a likely part of planning your trip. Getting these details right early on will make your vacation planning smoother.
Think of your state and agency rules as your travel planning roadmap.
Each state does things a bit differently. Some states keep things pretty simple, while others may need more detail about your plans.
If you're dreaming of taking a child in care on an international adventure, you'll need to start the preparation even earlier. For example, they will need a passport if they don’t have one, and this takes time to obtain.
Don't let this discourage you. Plenty of foster families have successfully planned amazing trips abroad. It just takes a little extra patience and planning.
Getting the green light for your trip involves a few key steps, but don't worry — you're not alone in this process.
The earlier you start talking with them about your plans, the better! Your caseworker can walk you through what paperwork you'll need and help you understand how long approvals might take.
If you're planning a trip that's longer than a few days or crosses state lines, you'll likely need some paperwork.
In some cases, you'll need to include your child's biological parents in the planning process. Your caseworker can help you navigate these conversations with sensitivity and care.
There may be times when vacation plans are dependent on other circumstances.
For example, there could be an upcoming court date or family visits that can’t be rescheduled. Some children need extra time to settle into their new home before taking a trip. Your caseworker can help you understand if any special circumstances apply to your situation.
This is particularly important for children in therapeutic care, who often have complex healthcare needs that require more frequent medical visits.
The key is to be flexible and patient. Sometimes the perfect family vacation might need to wait a little while. What matters most is creating a positive experience that works for everyone involved.
Once you’ve consulted with your caseworker and you’ve received approval, it's time for the fun part: planning your adventure!
A little preparation with the following steps goes a long way in making sure everyone has a great trip.
Remember that kids in care often do better when they know what to expect.
You don't need to plan every minute (in fact, it's better if you don't), but having a general outline helps everyone feel more secure.
Write down where you'll be staying, how you can be reached, and any backup plans — like what you'll do if someone gets sick or the weather doesn't cooperate.
Try sharing your plans with them in a way that builds excitement: "On Monday, we'll get to splash in the hotel pool, and then on Tuesday, we might explore the amazing children's museum!"
Be sure to leave room for flexibility — sometimes, the best memories come from unplanned moments.
When it comes to packing, comfort is key.
Along with the usual vacation essentials, be sure to pack items that help your child feel secure such as their favorite stuffed animal, a familiar blanket, or special snacks.
Don't forget to bring any important documents your caseworker has advised you to carry, like medical consent forms or insurance cards.
For accommodations, look for places that give everyone enough space to feel comfortable. Many foster families find that vacation rentals or suites work well because they offer separate sleeping areas and a kitchen for familiar meals.
If you're staying in a hotel, consider requesting a room away from high-traffic areas for extra privacy and quiet.
Remember, many foster parents in your community have traveled successfully with children in care. Don't hesitate to reach out to local foster parent groups for their tried-and-true tips!
Every child is unique, and traveling together is a chance to learn even more about your child's needs and interests.
The key to a successful trip often lies in finding the right balance between excitement and comfort. Let's explore some ways to make your vacation enjoyable for everyone.
Think of your vacation schedule as a gentle guide rather than a strict plan.
Building in extra time between activities can make a world of difference — it gives your child space to process new experiences and helps prevent feeling rushed. For example, you normally allow 30 minutes to get ready in the morning, try planning for an hour instead.
Sometimes, even the most exciting activities can feel overwhelming. Maybe the theme park is too noisy, or the beach feels too crowded. Having a backup plan — like taking a quiet break in your room or finding a peaceful park nearby — can help everyone reset and enjoy the rest of the day.
Before you head out, make sure you're prepared for any health needs that might come up:
Keep an eye out for signs that your child might be feeling stressed or overwhelmed. This may look different for each child — maybe they get extra quiet, or perhaps more energetic than usual.
Taking regular breaks and checking in with simple questions like "How are you feeling about today?" can help you spot when they need extra support.
Vacations are all about making memories, and there are lots of ways to capture these special moments.
While following your agency's guidelines about photos, try creating a vacation journal or collecting small souvenirs from each place you visit. Some foster families make it a tradition to send postcards home or create a special scrapbook after their trip.
Focus on finding activities that your child enjoys. If they love animals, consider a visit to a local aquarium. If they enjoy being active, plan outdoor adventures, such as a nature hike.
The most meaningful moments often come from sharing experiences that match their interests.
Remember, the goal isn't to have a perfect, Instagram-worthy vacation. It's about spending quality time together and creating special memories!
Sometimes, the best moments can happen when we are simply getting ice cream together or watching the sunset.
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